FAQ: How can I learn more about polyamory?

I get a lot of questions from people looking to dip their toes in the water and learn more about polyamory, usually because they think they might be poly or want to try a poly relationship.

There are lots of resources out there - in fact, if you’re just looking for general information, you’re better served doing a few Google searches than just asking me for resources, especially since there are so many specific issues. Are you looking for resources on poly dating? Poly parenting? Coming out as poly? Figuring out whether you’re poly? Throw a few keywords into Google and follow the trail of resources - and check out my FAQ for more specific issue-oriented Poly Advice posts.

Still, I get lots of letters asking me for generic, Poly 101 type resources, so here’s my shortlist:

The Ethical Slut - Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
More Than Two - Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Opening Up - Tristan Taormino
Daring Greatly - Brene Brown (this book is not about polyamory, but I consider it an indispensable resource for healthy self work)

General information
Websites with a wealth of different resources if you poke around them - many have their own FAQ and Resources pages.
More Than Two
Polyamory on Purpose
The Polyamory Society
Love More
Scarleteen’s Intro to Polyamory
Poly For Us
Poly Families
Opening Up
Looks Like Love To Me
Poly Living
List of poly publications at Poly in the media

Forums & communities
Polyamory.com forum
Polyamory subreddit
Poly Living

Audio & video resources
List of radio/podcast episodes about polyamory
Polyamory Weekly podcast
Multiamory podcast
Ask A Polyamorous Person video
Polyamory and Emotional Literacy TEDx talk

Issue-specific resources
13 things I wish I'd learned before choosing non-monogamy
Guide to managing jealousy
Poly in the media
Poly Skeptics
SexGeek’s 10 Realistic Rules for Good Non-Monogamy
Poly Momma