I want more one-on-one time with my partner, but don't know how to ask

My bf and I have been together for a lil over 3 months and have had 2 like personal, alone, datelike times. He has been with another partner for a few years which makes me feel like I don't have a right to ask for more time. I am close friends with my meta and enjoy our time together but I'm needing more time with my bf for just us. We barely talk during the week and see each other on weekends. I don't know how to talk about needing more.

You have a right to ask for more time; he may not feel that you have a right to his time, but you always have the right to ask. There’s a huge difference between opening a conversation and making a demand.

You say you don’t know how to talk about needing more, but there’s no magical solution - you just gotta take a deep breath and have the conversation. Explain to him that you’d like more one-on-one time with him. Be proactive and constructive about this and make some concrete requests: would he be able to sleep over at your place this weekend? Could he meet you for a dinner date this week?

Try not to be accusatory or speak for him - “you prioritize your other partner over me” or “you never make time for me.” He may be very busy with work; he may not have realized you want more of his attention; he may be prioritizing his other partner in a way he hasn’t articulated to you; he may just be kind of oblivious and not a planner. Just be clear that you’d like to try and schedule some more time for just the two of you.

Of course he doesn’t have to agree to everything you ask and he just might not be as available as you want him to, but this is a space for gentle compromise. If he flat out refuses or argues or dismisses you, it’s probably not smart to stay in this relationship. Or, if it becomes a pattern where you don’t get that kind of time with him unless you plan it yourself, every time, consider whether that’s a relationship dynamic you’re okay with. But give him a chance to have the conversation and make some changes before you jump to those issues.