Dan Savage write in his column this week that “there is no such thing as a person who is poly” and that non monogamy is a sexual choice and behavior rather than identity. If you disagree because you or someone you know identifies as poly or mono, let him know that it’s inappropriate to claim that certain people’s identities are not real.

His point is that all people are technically non monogamous and that polyamory is a relationship model, not an identity. Whether or not he’s correct about human sexuality, he’s incorrect in saying that he has authority to decide who can and cannot claim an identity.

Leave a comment on the column linked above (you do not have to register), tweet him at @fakedansavage, and/or email him at Let’s show him just how many polys really do exist.