I have a huge crush on a guy. However he is mono, and I ideally want a triad. So there isnt anyway a relationship would work. Plus hes a really close friend and I dont want to lose that. What do I do?

There really is nothing here to “do,” unfortunately. You know your crush can never be realized, so it’s time to let that go. Do what you need to do to shift your romantic focus: reduce contact with him for a bit, actively seek out other people to date, force yourself to stop fantasizing about being with him.

If you want to maintain the close friendship, you need to accept it for what it is: a platonic friendship, and try to stop any behaviors and thoughts that are letting your crush get in the way of that. Don’t put pressures or expectations onto the friendship that will only leave you let down and frustrated.