I’m currently having a huge argument with the few people im out to. Is polyamory a choice or sexuality? They all say its a choice as you can choose to be mono (?), however for me I couldn’t happy long term with one person, so its a sexuality?

Are you born poly? Or is it a relationship choice?

I get this question often, and it sort of breaks my heart that this is a point of contention in the community. We have to have each other’s backs, friends. Is this the hill any of us want to die on?

Anyway, my answer to this question is here, and you can find more of my thoughts on this under the orientation tag.