I met my boyfriend about half a year ago and when we first got together he and his wife had been separated for a while and they were even possibly getting a divorce. Now, they’re trying to ‘fix’ things and he’s told me we’re going to have to break up but every-time we do he comes back and asks me not to leave. I love him very much and I want to be with him but I’m not sure I should stay with him when his wife does not approve? He’s also been asking me to move in with him but he’s also supposed to be convincing his wife to move back and live with him. So, I’m not sure what I can do? We live long distance and we’ve never really met in person so I’m not sure what there is for me with him anymore. His life seems to be moving forward without me and I try to find myself a place but I just don’t think it exists? What should I do?

Walk away! I try to be a bit more delicate whenever possible, but there is no future for you here. Your boyfriend has made it clear that he is not going to commit to you, not going to stick to his word, and is going to keep digging himself deeper in this pit of drama and emotional messiness. Do not follow him down there.

You’ve only been together for 6 months, and you’ve never really met in person - this is going to be a relatively clean break, compared to similar situations I’ve gotten letters about. Leave this guy to his personal disaster and find someone who isn’t going to jerk you around and involve you in an unhealthy marriage and otherwise act like this. You deserve better!