I rarely ever get interested in dating people, but I’ve always thought I’d be down to be with multiple, if I could ever find more than one with mutual interest. I’m interested in a poly person. Do you have to know you’re poly to date a poly person?
Not at all! If you had to know you were poly in order to date polyamorously, and you had to date polyamorously to know you were poly, we’d all be trapped in the paradox of singlehood, and that would be a bummer.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are interested in a poly relationship with someone, go for it! Be honest with them about your lack of experience, but don’t see yourself as an inferior partner or probationary poly person.
In the meantime, it’s worth doing some self work so that whatever type of relationship you or don’t end up trying, you have communication skills and methods of managing jealousy that help you be your best, healthiest self!