hello! so i broke it off with my ex bc i just wasn’t ready and starting college. i still truly like them tho, but they r dating someone else now. they have also said they are open to a poly relationship but i’m not sure if their partner is. should i be open and tell them i still like them and feel ready for a relationship now? or should i just leave it alone and attempt to move on?
Better an “oops” than a “what if.” Bring it up and see what he says! Either it works out or it doesn’t, but since the “worst case scenario” for Choice A is basically the outcome of Choice B, it makes sense to at least give it a shot!
This is nearly exactly the same situation I found myself in over eight years ago: I had broken up with my high school boyfriend because I wanted freedom to date in college. I missed him terribly, but was not ready for a long distance relationship when starting college. Then I learned about polyamory. I reached back out to him and said hey, I miss you and would love to get back with you, but on these terms. He could have said no, but it turned out that he was interested in poly dating. We have been poly and together ever since!