Ok. Little bit of a dilemma here. And idk who to ask for opinions but here I go. I’ve been dating this guy for a yearish technically idk we broke up then got back together and we are really in love w th each other (I know it sounds really really cheesy) and we’ve talked about our future together (yet again super cheesy) and I’m still in high school and he’s almost done with it and he’s my 2nd boyfriend and I just feel like I will regret only dating him my whole life and idk what to do
Let me tell you two stories:
When I was a sophomore in high school, I started dating a boy in my class. We dated for about a year and were very serious about each other. We talked a lot about our future together. He even “proposed” to me and gave me a very beautiful promise ring. We broke up my junior year of high school. We don’t talk anymore.
When I was a senior in high school, I started dating a boy from another high school. We never talked about a “future together” because I knew the relationship was doomed to be a high school fling, since even if we were going to the same college (we weren’t), high school relationships don’t generally last. I figured we would have fun while it lasted and break things off when distance or immaturity got the best of us. We’re still together and have lived together for the past 3 years.
The thing about relationships is that you never really know what they’re going to become. You aren’t in control of the future, only the present. If you’re together today, be with each other today. Be in the relationship as it is right now - that matters more than whether you’ll be together in a year. Some people will tell you that high school relationships don’t last. Other people will tell you that if you think you’ve found “the one,” you should hold on with everything you’ve got. Neither piece of advice has much nuance to it, though.
Your feelings for him right now are strong, and real, and exciting. Channel those into your current relationship rather than trying to predict or nail down the future. Maybe it’ll last, maybe it won’t. Worrying about the future only distracts from the present. Do what’s healthy and fulfilling for you right now and trust your future self to make the right decisions too.