Patreon reminder!

Now that Polyamory Advice is posting 5 days a week, rather than 3, you're getting almost twice as much content - always for free!

I spend a significant amount of time and energy on this advice blog, and I'm thrilled to be at a place where I can answer even more questions every week. But I'd also love to be able to grow even more. If just 10% of my tumblr followers pledged $1 a month, it would have such a huge impact on my life and my ability to keep writing, educating, and advocating.

Patreons who pledge $2 or more will get two Polyamory Advice stickers! And all Patreons get exclusive extra content, which in the coming months will include:

  • "Polyamorous playlists" of love songs carefully selected to exclude monogamist tropes
  • Interviews with polyamorous and monogamous people about their relationship philosophies and experiences
  • Polyamory jokes & silliness by yours truly
  • Polyamory-related comics & artwork (commissioned from friends of the blog)
  • ...and more!

If you enjoy my work, please consider heading over to Patreon and supporting me!

reverse signal boost? for polyamorous art

If the person who wants to make art about polyamorous characters feels comfortable sharing their blog, I would love to see the art!

Consider this an open call - if you make art, writing, or other creative work about polyamory, send it my way and I'll boost it! Bonus points if you send a little note about choices you made, influences you used, etc. to be realistic, sensitive, and positive about polyamorous representation! 

Handmade Lifestyle Jewelry & Gifts by LoveInfinitelyGifts on Etsy



Guys I’m really struggling financially right now and I could desperately use help. If anyone would be willing to share my store around to help bring in some money I would really appreciate it.

As it is, it doesn’t look like I’m going to make my rent this month if something doesn’t pick up. I’ve reapplied to drive for Uber again, but my registration has to be renewed before they’ll let me drive. That payment is already late and after the 15th I begin incurring fines so any help at all would be wonderful. I need to be able to get on the road again and try to make some extra money.

So, I never really do promos on this blog, and this blogger did NOT ask for the shoutout, but this one is special.

I clicked through this when it came up on my dash, and sure enough there is some really beautiful polyamory-themed jewelry. What really did it for me, though, is that this artist has a charm with a cross and a polyamory symbol. (There is also an atheist/skeptic one). When I saw that item listed I actually teared up. It is so rare for me as a polyamorous person of faith to feel like my whole, integrated self is seen, honored, and included. I am often alienated from polyamorous communities because I am a Christian and often alienated from Christian communities because I am polyamorous. For me, my spirituality and my polyamory are deeply inter-linked, but I have never seen a work of art that honors and recognizes that. I have cross jewelry and infinity symbol jewelry but I have never been offered an opportunity to express pride in who I am as fully as with that little charm.

Of course I ordered one and I encourage my followers to support this shop if you’re able and interested. @bipolysub I really hope things pick up for you and I want to thank you deeply for that beautiful moment I got to experience today. Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help. <3

Update: it came in the mail yesterday and totally made my day! I wore it to work today! It came in a cute little package with bright yellow bubble wrap! Did you know they made bright yellow bubble wrap? I didn’t!

I desperately want to post a selfie wearing it, but I have to be anonymous on here for annoying reasons. :( just imagine someone who looks a lot like my avatar but now with turquoise hair grinning while proudly rocking a blue polyamorous-christian pendant, okay? #mentalselfie 

Thank you so much @bipolysub for the lovely & affirming piece. If you haven’t already, please check out the linked etsy store & consider buying something neat! <3 


If you donate $10 or more to the ACLU and send a screenshot of your donation to polyamoryadvice [at] gmail [dot] com, I will provide one of the following, of your choice:

  • A poem about a topic of your choice (silly or literary)
  • A short fic about a topic of your choice (my favorite thing to do is little fics about people and their friends in various worlds or adventures)
  • A private answer to a question you have, poly advice related or not
  • A cover letter or resume overhaul
  • A guest post for your blog
  • Another writing or editing commission; let’s discuss!

I’m trying to put my skills and platform to good use in this frightening time - I’ve donated what I can and want to encourage others to do so! 

Feel free to signal boost this; the offer goes for folks who aren’t following me, money is money and the ACLU needs it right now.


Femme Stuff Giveaway is still on!

Hi friends,

Please see details here about my femme stuff giveaway!

I have made up packages for everyone who’s contacted me so far - if you sent me your address for fun femme stuff, your box will go out in the mail this Wednesday. 

I still have lots of stuff, mostly hair accessories and nail polish, some makeup, some random girly things. 

If you could use a care package of sisterhood and glitter, send me your info and I’ll get that out to you!